what are we afraid of?

Are we afraid of what we might lose? Or what we might gain? Are we afraid of the dark? Or what is in the dark? Let me put it another way. Are we afraid of the known? Or the unknown?
I'd say both, but largely, we're afraid of the latter. When we lose something, we're scared of how we'll go on, without that thing. Because we've grown so accustomed to it, that it's hard to imagine life without it.
However, sometimes we are afraid of losing something. And afraid of only that. And if we ever face that situation, if we ever lose something; and if we were initially afraid of losing it because we were emotionally attached to it, then more often than not, we're so caught up in that fear, in that sorrow that we fail to realize that we haven't completely lost it, yet. But by the time we come to terms with this fact, we've lost most of what we had left of that thing.
When you lose something, you can either grab onto whatever you have left of it, and nurture that. Or you can get swept up by emotions of varying sorts and lose most of what you have left.
Fear is never a good thing. And though it might seem inevitable at times, it isn't. It's all in your mind. But when you get scared, you are no longer in control of your mind, fear is. There was this story, a few weeks ago, in the newspaper. It was about a 7 year old boy who was a dancer, and when his parents told him he needs to focus on studying and lay off the dancing for a bit, he hung himself from the ceiling fan and ended a life that had barely even begun. Seven. Why would he do something like that? I think, it was the fear, of what life would be like without dancing, that got to him. And as fear took over his mind, he was unable to think rationally, and so he never came across the solution that he could continue dancing for his own pleasure and perhaps at some point, go back to competing? Thing is, fear, mentally paralyzes you, and makes you feel as though the world has come to an end. Well, it hasn't. The world's still spinning, and you have to tell yourself "as long as i have air in my lungs and a heart that beats, I'll find a way to go on".
It's the cowards who fear. They're the one's who get scared. And quite honestly, it's that fraction of a second when you have to make a decision. And that decision could have the power to change the outcome of your entire life. That child, could have been alive right now, and who knows? maybe in 10 years he would've been a sensation. But we'll never know, i guess. See that's the thing. Fear makes you take the easy way out, but the easy way out isn't always the right way. My moto is "ki pharak penda hai?". translated, that says "what difference does it make?".
Point is, the good times can't last forever, and neither can the bad. The only thing you can control is how you react to them.
There's this theory, called the 90/10 theory, which says 10% of the things in life are the things that we can't change. The hurdles that life throws our way. But 90% of the thing in life, are how we deal with that 10%. You're facing a situation, a problem maybe, you have to deal with it right. Either way it's not going to go away. You react badly, you end up bad. You re-act positively, maybe even cleverly, and you'll see you're way better off. Either way, the problem is there, so you might as well make the best of it right? 10% of it, is out of your hands, the only thing you can control, is that 90%.
Cause according to me, there are two kinds of people, the ones who see everything as a problem, and the ones who see nothing as a problem. What kind of person do you want to be?